Original Article: https://www.weibo.com/ttarticle/p/show?id=2309404475817739550906#_0
Original Author: 白玉苦瓜·
If you have a basic understanding of Xiao Zhan, you would know that he is a gentleman, and in Mr. Kang Zhen’s words, as sturdy as a flourishing bamboo forest.
He is polite, humble and warm towards everyone, regardless of whether the person is his senior, his colleague or his staff. There is no “celebrity” in his attitude – he always bows in gratitude and handles items with both hands.
He is always considerate, and habitually takes care of his staff, either by helping them with umbrellas or other items or keeping elevator doors open while they enter or exit.
He is clear-headed, with amazing clarity on his sudden burst of fame while staying humble and calm. He claims that he just happened to be lucky, that he is just a slightly more motivated young man and reminds everyone not to over-praise him.
He showcases his high emotional intelligence in his watertight replies, his attitude has always been mature and diplomatic, and his words have always been comforting and warm. To some, this makes them feel like he is always on the fence and a hypocrite, and having to maintain that at all times would make him very tired.
In fact, many have asked Xiao Zhan this same question – to be watertight in all of his interpersonal encounters, to always be considerate of others’ feelings, is that not tiring?
To that, Xiao Zhan gives an upfront reply, “Making someone else happy is not a necessary thing for me to do. Therefore, it does not make me tired.”
Although the answer may seem abrupt, but the logic is definitely true.
Firstly, making someone else happy, having a positive environment, is simply a choice that Xiao Zhan is making, but not a necessary task to complete. Since this is entirely based on his preferences, why would he dislike that?
Besides, him being humble and considerate does not make him a softie or a pushover.
In fact, he is a tenacious person. He once said that he is a stubborn person, and if you think that he is a “Mr. Nice Guy”, you probably don’t know him well enough yet.
For example, he said frankly that the choices he made were made with his passion, and he has rejected unreasonable requests.
For example, when he was still a relatively unknown, he made sure to stop the sales of a re-released magazine of his at ridiculous prices, in respect of his fans.
Xiao Zhan joined the entertainment business as a commoner, started learning dancing at the age of 24, endured arduous training (which resulted in inflamed knees and the loss of toenails) without complaint. After his debut, there was a period where he was being hidden from public view by his company, and he also fought a lawsuit against his company.
From a graphic designer to an idol, from an idol to an actor, he started from zero every time – with new environments and new stressors. When he had no opportunities, he went to auditions on his own, and without any foundation in acting, he honed his skills using the most basic method – hard work. When he encountered a bottleneck in his performance, he overcame it by using the harmful way – method acting. In freezing temperatures, in sweltering heat, in high altitudes, he went underwater, went through beatings, did his wire stunts – all of which he did without complaints.
As a person who is relentless against all odds, Xiao Zhan is definitely not a pushover. As a person who is candid about his past, truthful about his character, willing to take on hardships but share the spoils of success – how can this person be considered a hypocrite?
Being gentle and humble is his upbringing, being considerate is his kindness, being polite is his emotional intelligence. At his core, he is firm, principled, tenacious, and a true gentleman.
He is a diplomatic yet principled person, this is his other side. He once said – My inner self is like bamboo – tough and tenacious. And he truly shows that he is such a person – humble and tenacious, and a true gentleman.
